The Silence I Come From

Joanna Dorobisz

The Silence I Come From

Coming Back to Who You Truly Are

A personal story of growing up in a home where silence was the only protection, and of the journey from survival mode back to life. With exercises to help you walk this path at your own pace.

  • English edition
  • 15 chapters with exercises
  • PDF ebook, instant download
  • Paperback on Amazon

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The Silence I Come From by Joanna Dorobisz, book cover

“It switches off feeling. Not because you are weak. But because you are strong.”from Chapter 1

About the book

From frozen to alive

I grew up in a home where words were sharper than a knife and silence was the only shelter. For years I lived in survival mode. I functioned, I smiled, I did what was expected of me. But I didn’t feel.

This book is the story of my journey. I write about what happens to a child who has to switch off her emotions in order to survive, and about how a grown woman can get them back. Honestly, without embellishment, and with tenderness for every woman who recognises herself in these pages.

This is not a guide to “fixing yourself” in a week. It’s a way back to who you truly are.

I will guide you through ACoA and complex trauma, through the legacy of your ancestors and Family Constellations, to working with your inner child, your body and your frozen emotions.

Excerpt

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Chapter 1

My Story: From Surviving to Living

Every story of healing begins in the place that hurt. In the moment when something inside us broke — or rather, kept breaking for years, so slowly that we never noticed when we stopped feeling. We stopped dreaming. We stopped being ourselves.

I, too, once could not feel.

I didn’t know how.

I grew up in a world that was not safe. In a home where words were sharper than a knife, and my mother’s silence hurt more than shouting. Where you had to be a grown-up before you had learned to write. Where being a child was a luxury I could not afford.

My body lived, functioned, carried out its duties — but my soul was locked inside a shell. Hard, cold, armoured. That was how I learned to survive.

Continued in the book.

Contents

15 chapters, one path

  1. 1My Story: From Surviving to Living
  2. 2Was It Really “Normal”?
  3. 3Silent Wounds: ACoA, C-PTSD and Toxic Patterns
  4. 4Our Ancestors Speak Through Our Lives
  5. 5Family Constellations: the Voice of the Family Line That Wants to Be Heard
  6. 6Your Place in the System: You Are Exactly Where You Belong
  7. 7You Are Not Your Mother. You Are Not Your Father
  8. 8What Is Not Mine, I Give Back. What Is Mine, I Reclaim
  9. 9The Inner Child: the Key to Your Truth
  10. 10The Body Remembers Everything
  11. 11Frozen Emotions: How to Feel Them and Live Through Them Without Fear
  12. 12Your New Identity: Who Are You Without Your Story of Pain?
  13. 13From Dreams to Creation: How to Build the Life You Long For
  14. 14A New Life: How to Sustain Change and Not Slip Back Into the Old
  15. 15A Life That Is Yours

Plus a conclusion, an epilogue and a letter to the woman who decides on more.

Not just for reading

Every chapter ends with exercises

Reflective questions

For example: what did my childhood look like “on paper”, and what was it really like for me?

Letters and rituals

A letter to your younger self, a letter to your mum or dad, symbolically giving back what was never yours.

Body work

A map of your body and emotions, releasing movement, a daily dialogue with what you feel.

The ebook

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132 pages as a PDF, with clickable contents and bookmarks, easy to read on your phone, tablet or computer. You can download it straight after purchase.

The Silence I Come From: contents page and the opening of Chapter 1
Joanna Dorobisz
About the author

Joanna Dorobisz

She grew up in a home where violence was part of everyday life and silence was the only protection. Through Family Constellations, following Bert Hellinger’s method, and deep inner work, she broke the cycle and found her voice.

Today she is an author, a Family Constellations facilitator and the founder of Let Your Soul Glow. She helps women reclaim their voice, their feelings and the right to their own lives.

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Please note

  • This book is not a substitute for therapy or professional help. It can be a companion on your way, but not your only support.
  • In the UK: National Domestic Abuse Helpline 0808 2000 247 (free, 24/7). Samaritans 116 123 (free, 24/7). In an emergency, call 999. Outside the UK, please contact your local helpline or emergency services.

Your way back to yourself

If you recognise yourself in this silence, this book is for you.